One of the best gems that DC Guy ever gave us was:
"You cant spend it slowly enough"
People will be coming at you with proposals, "problems"and great ideas. Some will come with nice smiles and great demeanors. Some will be strangers and some you have known a long time.
Take time to get used to a new mindset, that of being NEWLY wealthy. You need to adjust to it.
Especially vulnerable are those like me who have been living in poor financial circumstances. Our situations have trained our minds in ways that will NOT apply after we CE. A new mindset is required.
UNDER PRESSURE WE CAN LEARN GREAT TRUTHS BUT ALSO WE CAN MAKE POOR DECISIONS FROM PRESSURE....IT IS NORMAL. Take time to chill and see who you are, were or will need to be!
After we CE, take time to heal your minds, your health and your families. The combination of our live's pressures and the ups and downs of this process have been brutal for many of us. The suffering has taken its toll in many different ways that you may not realize.
Not just on you, but your loved ones also. We need to heal first to be able to see and think clearly in our new lives.
REMEMBER THE STEWARDESS SAYS: "PARENTS PUT ON YOUR FACEMASKS, BEFORE PUTTING THEM ON YOUR CHILDREN" THAT IS BECAUSE YOU FIRST NEED TO BE YOUR BEST AND MOST CONSCIOUS SO YOU CAN HELP THE OTHERS.
Use the money wisely to first undue the stress and the problems it has caused in your lives and relationships. Not just the items you buy but you may need to use some money to make "new memories" and reverse the pains you have endured.
Use the money for making time together with those with whom your troubles have alientated you from. TAKE TIME AND HEAL MENTALLY BEFORE YOU START A SPENDING SPREE.
Note: I am not saying to be overly frugal to a point of making bad decisions either, that is very important. Many of us have been "down" so long financially that we have developed certain thoughts and actions that need to be unwound before we can make the new important GOOD decisions of newly wealthy people.
There may be things that we SHOULD pay for right away! Knowing what these things are is the key. Our mental wounds need to be healed first and our checkbooks held tightly while we are re-learning old things and learning new vital things.
Sometimes we OVERTHINK due to our conditioning. Your poverty, pressures and stress may have made you change in ways that will CLOUD your thinking for your new life! You may have become too frugal in some areas for your own good. I am not saying spend or dont spend, I am saying HEAL before you spend.
Be flexible in everything. Be open to retraining some of your thoughts. If you have been in poor financial condition for any period of time you may have been "damaged" in ways you dont realize. It is not your fault, it is normal but understand that it takes a terrible toll and changes us.
You have been blessed now with the funds that will give you the time and the strength to learn and repair yourself and your loved ones. You and they deserve better. This is your time now! Be thankful and be wise.
Success will be a delicate balance between being wise with our money in BOTH the purchases we make and those we do NOT make. It will take time to gain the wisdom in this, allow yourself the time! TNT has greatly blessed us with incredible information on so many topics along this crazy ride.
Print it out, save it... use it! AFTER WE CE, PULL IT OUT AND TREAT IT LIKE GOLD.... read it, ask questions, search for new information and study it like it is GOLD! KEEP LEARNING AND GROWING, dont turn off your brain and go into full-time party mode or you will regret ever hearing of the GCR.
Enjoy the new changes, but then get to work! You may not need a "conventional" job after this but keeping and growing your new wealth will be your new job! It wont protect or grow itself!
In fact there is a vacuum waiting to suck it away. Failing to do this will make you like the lottery winners who lived it up and lost it all. THERE IS A TIME TO PARTY, AND A TIME TO WORK....even with millions of dollars you will have a job to do!
Dont have a lottery mentality or you will be a casuality like them. You and your families are counting on you. You have one shot here, a once in a lifetime chance. Dont blow it!
GROW, LEARN AND THINK.... IF YOU ARE NOT ONE WHO HAS "THOUGHT FOR YOURSELF" IN THE PAST, THAT IS JOB #1 FOR YOU NOW.
If you have relied on others to tell you what to think and do, this is an area in which you need healing first. To grow and protect your new wealth blessing you must take the reins, even with good advisors it is YOUR MONEY! If you don't learn to think for yourself then all your time with TNT has been wasted. You'll be a rich fool!
We have been given the incredible blessing of KNOWLEDGE not just currency!
KEEP LEARNING, KEEP THINKING.... WHILE YOU ENJOY THE NEW STUFF!
Take a weekend to really think over big purchases if you are unsure. If the deal wont be there Monday, maybe it wasn't meant to be? Conversely, don't deny yourself or loved ones from the things that WILL make your life better... I did NOT say more fun, I said better.
Yes fun can make our lives better but it must be a by-product, a result of good daily choices not the main focus or goal. If you put fun first you will fail and others will have your money. You will join the list of former wealthy people who lost it all.
Get with God and seek His guidance and pray that He brings you honest and knowlegable advisors but never leave the control or final decisions to them, you call the shots, you have the final say! Watch them, dont be intimidated by them.
It is OK to say" Please repeat that' or "please slow down" etc. YOU TAKE THE CONTROL! Dont worry about sounding dumb or inexperienced, its OK to say, "wait, this is new to me, please repeat that again slowly". Its OK to take notes when they speak. Dont worry how you "look" to them.
What you do is more important than what you look like to them! Once you leave the meeting they are going to wish they were YOU anyway!
YOU HAVE THE CHEESE, they are just paid advisors stuck working a job. THEY WISH THEY WERE YOU! So dont feel dumb, be strong and smart.
LEARN, KEEP LEARNING... RESEARCH, ASK, SAY "NO" IF YOU FEEL UNSURE OR PRESSURED. YOU CANT SPEND IT TOO SLOWLY! (as DC Guy has said)
After CE many of us will be "under construction" or more accurately RE-construction. Tell the smiling "nice" bankers, investment folks, friends and family members "NO THANKS FOR NOW, I'LL GET BACK TO YOU".
Humbly hold in your own heart PRIVATELY that you are "under construction" and remind yourself of that before you write a check or sign anything.
SLOW DOWN, BREATHE, THINK and GROW IN WISDOM, THEN YOU WILL ENJOY THIS BLESSING!
Regroup, heal, grow, learn, and keep thinking...
STAY WEALTHY MY FRIENDS!
Love you all, Hairdresser
Eagle Eyes: I've had an extraordinary life, albeit a roller coaster all along. LOTS of UPS and downs, as well as periods of smooth sailing.
Can't yet imagine what it's going to be like post RV/C/E. hairdresser, you're right ... it's going to take awhile to adjust the mental attitude.
I once went on a river trip in early spring, during the run-off. When our rafts headed into a narrow canyon where the waters were extremely turbulent it suddenly became an experience like being in the ocean during an extreme storm.
Our boatman was the only person among us who had experience navigating that canyon. Suddenly, I was hit by a wave that lifted me from the front pontoon and (fortunately) landed me on the raft. Our boatman was thrown overboard; among the other three on board, one was injured, another went into panic mode (attempting to be 'captain of the ship) and the third lost his glasses.
It was a life and death situation and the only thing to do was hold on for dear life. We went through dozens of watery upheavals before finally arriving on semi-calm water ... then the other raft threw us a life line and towed us to land.
When we settled down a bit, one woman passed around a journal asking us to record our feelings in the moment. Then we all began to mourn the loss of the boatman who had gone overboard .... WHEN all of a sudden he appeared floating toward us, seriously red-faced with a HUGE smile on his face.
This is a man who LOVED taking risks and who always came through, even went over Niagra Falls in a wooden crate one time. Yeah ~ we survived - we were all alive!
The canyon where we landed was indeed the Garden of Eden; never before or since have I seen/experienced such exquisite beauty.
Several years later, I read what I had written in my woman friends' journal. I wrote something like "This experience is like living life: turbulence, chaos, risk... then when you think it's all over, relief .... smooth sailing ... for awhile anyway. Usually just long enough to get ready for the next set of rapids. Ah ... !
Like many of you, I have struggled financially all of my adult life. Life the river trip, life has been a roller coaster ride... but always enough to get by, for which I am and always have been enormously grateful.
Hairdresser, I deeply appreciate your words of wisdom ... as it IS going to take time to gain clarity about the wise use of this energy/the resources we will suddenly have available.