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How to be calm, cool and effective in dealing with any problem in life
By Brian Tracy Published: April / May 2008
You will have to deal with countless problems and difficulties throughout your life. They never end. The only question is, “How good are you?” when it comes to overcoming the inevitable adversities of life.
Here’s a question for you: What are you made of? What are you really made of? When push comes to shove, when the rubber meets the road, when the chips are down, what lies at the very core of your character?
You learn what you’re really made of only when things go wrong and you are tumbled, end over end, by some adversity or setback that hits you like a Mack truck coming out of an alley.
Since your behaviors on the outside are the real indicators of who you are on the inside, only by observing how you behave when things go wrong can you tell what you really have inside you.
Let’s make one thing clear at the beginning. Life is a continuous succession of both small and large problems. They never end. No sooner do you get control of one situation when you are hit by another. Life is a process of “two steps forward and one step back.”
When you become a great success, you simply exchange one type of problem for another.
Before, you had small problems with limited consequences; now you have large problems with enormous consequences.
No matter how smart and clever and careful you are, you’ll face challenges, difficulties and sometimes heartbreaking adversities every day, week and month of your life.
And thank heaven for that! You couldn’t possibly have become the person you are today if you had not had to contend with adversity on your way up.
Perhaps your chief aim in life is to develop a noble character, to become an excellent human being, to become everything you are capable of becoming.
Only by contending with challenges that seem to be beyond your strength to handle at the moment can you grow more surely toward the stars.
The starting point in dealing with any difficulty is simply to relax. Clear your mind. Get yourself into a state where you’re calm and cool and in full control of your emotions and senses. Back off mentally, and become as objective as possible.
Step back and look at the problem with a certain amount of detachment, as if it were happening to someone else. When you can analyze your adversities clearly, you sometimes see opportunities to turn them to your best advantage.
Remember, too, that you are never sent a difficulty that is too big for you to handle. Whatever problems or adversities you face, you have within you the resources to deal with them. You have the creative ability to find a solution to your problem.
You have within you, right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you.
Now, here are three steps you can take immediately to put these ideas into action.
First, treat every problem or difficulty as if it were a “test,” sent to see how capable and competent you are. Look for ways to grow and benefit, to “pass” the test with high marks.
Second, stay calm no matter what happens. The longer you can stay calm and relaxed, the better decisions you can make and the faster you will be out of your difficulty.
Third, ask other people who have had the same problem for their advice. Don’t try to solve it all by yourself.
And finally, no matter what it is, say to yourself, “This too, shall pass.”
Brian Tracy is the bestselling author of more than 42 books, published in 40 countries and translated into dozens of languages. Brian is a world renowned speaker and seminar leader, addressing more than 250,000 people each year throughout the US, Canada and in 40 other countries.
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Brian is Chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy International, and President of Brian Tracy University, a private on-line University for Sales and Entrepreneurship.
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